-Mayah Taylor, MA
Choose Her Everyday
When we think of the month of February we tend to automatically think of Valentine’s Day. For those that have a significant other, you recently spent your time, money, and energy thinking of ways to show that special someone you love them. But have you ever wondered why there is so much hype on this one day? Why is it we emphasize the importance of showing love to another person on this specific day when we should be showing it everyday? We see many couples come into our practice not knowing how to show their love to one another on a daily basis. We wanted to share our tips with you today on ways you can choose your partner every day, not just on Valentine’s Day.
Gratitude is such an important key to life and a key to showing your partner love. To show your partner how much you love them, you must first show gratitude for all the wonderful things about them. Take time out each day to focus on the different positive qualities your partner has. Focus on the things about your partner that you love or can’t live without. By doing this, it allows you to be more open to choosing your partner everyday and building a closer relationship with one another because you are embracing those special things about them.
Remember Everyday Is An Opportunity To Show Love
Instead of leaving it to one big day to go all out for your love, do small things each day to show your partner that you love and appreciate them. Examples of what you can do to keep your love alive all 365 days of the year are: Establish a regular weekly date night; Share your day when you get home; Say “I love you” every day; Give appreciation daily; Support each other. You’ll be surprised how much the little things you do for your partner each day to show them your love matter more than just saving it for one day each year.
Above all else maintain communication with your partner. Be open with each other. Stay up to date with each other’s wants and needs. In order to show each other love everyday, you also should know the way in which they need love. Understanding the ways your partner wants and needs to receive love from you will help you to know how to give them what they need and desire. Additionally if you are having problems in the relationship, communication is important to practice in order for both parties to determine what is wrong and work together to problem solve so that you both can keep the love alive and nurture your relationship.
Ask the question: “Why am I choosing my partner today”? If you can’t find a satisfying answer, dig deeper. If you still can’t find it today, ask the question tomorrow. We all have days of disconnect. But if many days go by and the answer still is not coming to you, and your days are filled with stress, let her go. Open up space in your heart to welcome another human in.
Your partner deserves to be chosen everyday, not just on Valentine’s Day. And so do you!
Becoming mindful of these tips will help you to chose her EVERYDAY. And you will start to look at her with fresh, more self-aware eyes. As always, share your successes and struggles by posting on our various social media sites or by contacting us here!